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Epiphany in Cuba, January 2000 
By Tom and Barbara Lloyd

(pictures accompany this article, view them by clicking on the links)

We went to Havana with 14 members of the Episcopal Peace Fellowship (EPF), the third trip of the EPF’s Cuba Interest Group, to show solidarity with our sister and brother Episcopalians in Cuba. Our group of 8 men and 6 women were from six states of the U.S. and one man from Canada.

Our sponsors were Pastors For Peace, started by the Rev. Lucius Walker to defy the U.S. ban on travel to Cuba. Just last July, an EPF student group at St. Alban’s School for Boys in Washington, DC, donated a disabled-access minibus which was delivered to a Cuban hospital, part of a P.F.P. Caravan.

Members of our group took several hundred dollars worth of vitamins, prescription medicines, asthmatic tablets and inhalers to give to the Dean of the Episcopal Cathedral, the Very Rev. Juan Ramon de la Paz, for the clinic the Cathedral runs. Both he and his wife, the Rev. Canon Nerva Cot, greeted us with hugs and a kiss on both cheeks.

We stayed in dormitory-style lodging (i.e., bunk beds and shared baths) at the Martin Luther King Center, opened in 1987, which is also an Ebenezer Baptist Church. We took all meals there, except the farewell dinner at a “paladar”, a privately-owned restaurant. They fed us well: an egg, bread and fruit for breakfast; for lunch and dinner we had salad, rolls, rice and beans, meat, pudding, coffee and tea.

Each day we were either driven in a van to a place of interest (“Old Havana”; the Cathedral’ a sugar cane cooperative; Museum of the Revolution; a hospital; elementary school, the National Assembly; Farmer’s Market’ day care center), or a speaker came to the Center to talk about Cuban life. All Spanish was translated by an excellent interpreter. 

On Sunday at Holy Trinity Cathedral, after the Eucharist, the children put on a Christmas/Epiphany pageant in front of the altar – beautifully done. [the Virgin Mary was a young black girl in a while robe, with bare feet.] After that was a program of dances, from adorable little “angels” with wings and sparkly tiaras, to a finale with young ladies wearing long gowns waving fans, in a lovely dance. Piano solos and violin duets followed, all well done.

The Cathedral was full, “as usual”, Dean Juan Ranion told us, as he invited us in perfect English to the parish all for “almuerzo”(which was a full meal), with the 34 members of the Cathedral’s EPF Chapter.

Notes:

Population of Cuba: 11 million
Roman Catholics: 500,000
Protestants: 300,000 (of which 100,000 are Episcopalians, the Dean told us)

After the hurricane and floods, Cuba sent 2,000 doctors to Honduras & Nicaragua. They are now training 5,000 medical students from Central America and Caribbean countries, free of charge, at their brand new Latin American Medical School, to prepare them to return to their own countries to care for people in the poorest and most rural areas.

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In Loving Memory of Bishop Lloyd Gressle
By the Rev. John R. Coble, Jr.

I met Bishop Gressle for the first time shortly after he was consecrated Bishop Coadjutor in 1970 at a clergy conference and was very impressed with him as a person. I had just moved from St. James' Church, Schuylkill Haven to St. George's Church in Hellertown the previous month. When I introduced myself to him he immediately noted that I had just taken a new position in Hellertown and wished me well. The fact that he would have known that and identified me so quickly surprised me and amazed me. He was very warm and caring and that is how I knew him throughout the years. It was not so much what he did or accomplished in his ministry that touched me but who he was in his ministry.

After six years in that parish Lloyd Gressle approached me to ask if I would be interested in considering the position of Archdeacon of the Diocese. I was honored and thrilled that he asked me and delighted with the opportunity to serve the church as his administrative assistant. When I began to make visits to parishes I was terrified for I did not know what to do. When I asked him what I was to do and how I could find out what the issues were he gave me the following advice that has served me all these years. He said, "People will tell you what you need to know if you listen to what they say and what they do not say." I cannot tell you how often I have used that in training people for ministry in parish life and now in my work as a chaplain for Hospice.

Lloyd Gressle cared for people and truly knew people for who they were. It was always amazing how good he was with names of people and all their family members. When the Rev. John Docker and I began as the clergy members of his staff Lloyd would always ask us who was present at the various meetings we attended. We could not always remember names, at least not at first and were impressed with his memory and recollection of people and their personal lives. Not only did he know people on a personal level but he also accepted them for who they were and where they had been. Then he always went one step further by challenging them to grow.

Issues were important for Lloyd Gressle and you can recall or read in other places about his work with the marginalized, the poor, and those disenfranchised. I am sure he had his enemies for the positions he took. In fact when I sat down to write this article I received a phone call from one of them that criticized my positive references to him in the local paper that morning. In my grief I have discovered how much this man meant to me and how he fathered me in a way that I had never been before. I will miss him but I along with you will always have a relationship with him in memory.

Lloyd was so very loving to our mentally handicapped son, David. David always loved Lloyd as well. David cannot verbalize but would use the sign for bishop, which is done by placing a kiss on the ring finger of a closed fist, as if to kiss the bishop's ring. When Mark Dyer was elected to serve as Lloyd's successor we were not sure how David would distinguish between them. For David it was easy, as he would make the sign for bishop and then hold up one or two fingers. I would like to think that for some of us Lloyd Gressle will always be bishop #1.

[The Rev. John R. Coble, Jr., retired rector of Trinity Church, Bethlehem, and once archdeacon for the Diocese of Bethlehem, is a parishioner at St. George's Church, Hellertown.] 

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Sixth Bishop of Bethlehem
Lloyd Gressle Fought For Justice And The Oppressed
Diocesan Life, January 2000

The Rt. Rev. Lloyd E. Gressle, Sixth Bishop of the Diocese of Bethlehem, fought for the oppressed and marched in support of Vietnam War dissenters. He died in East Quogue, NY, December 7. He was 81 years old.

[As Diocesan Life was going to press, a memorial service had been scheduled for December 10 at St. Mary the Virgin Church, Hampton Bays, New York.]

Before retiring to eastern Long Island in 1983, he served as Bishop here for 13 years and was a member of the Executive Council of the Episcopal Church USA.

He sought to rectify injustice and discrimination. In the 1960's, as the local chapter president of the National Conference of Christians and Jews, he pushed for legislation to end housing discrimination in Delaware. During the Vietnam era, he marched with Daniel Berrigan in 1973 to protest the Harrisburg trial of seven war dissenters.

"Lloyd Gressle was loved throughout the Diocese of Bethlehem," said Bethlehem Bishop Paul V. Marshall. "He was a pastor to the clergy and exhibited a passion for social ministry with the poor and marginalized and for justice and peace. During the Vietnam era, he was one of the first bishops to put himself on the line as a committed public advocate for justice and peace."

''He always accepted people for who and where they were in life, and he always challenged people to grow beyond that,'' said the Rev. John Coble, retired rector of Trinity Church, Bethlehem, and Gressle's former archdeacon. ''He had a way of seeing what was truly important in the large picture.''

Gressle served at a time of upheaval and social changes in the country and church.

In 1972, he was among five Pennsylvania Episcopal bishops who urged Gov. Milton Shapp to veto an anti-abortion bill that would have eliminated abortions in the state.

When Gressle arrived, Episcopalians were at odds over the ordination of women as priests. In 1974, which Gressle called a ''torturous and convulsive year for our church,'' he initially opposed the ordination of 11 women deacons in Philadelphia but changed his position later that year.

His concern for social ministries and social justice resulted in the establishment of the Diocesan Advance Fund, a kind of endowment for social ministries that was begun in 1975 to be spent down over 15 years. It provided seed and operating money (generally in $5.000 to $25,000 grants) to enable an extraordinary amount of ecumenical and diocesan outreach ministry.

Many significant social ministries throughout the 14 northeastern PA counties of the diocese received seed money from this fund - and continue to exist today only because they were born and supported back then. It accomplished far more than its original task ever envisioned.

"We had begun to understand the increasing needs laid upon servants of God when we adopted the Diocesan Advance Fund to be better able to fulfill our ministries," he said in his last address to the diocesan community. "In a short period of time we have been able to do all sorts of varied ministries beyond normal budget restraints. These ministries have touched every area of the diocese in a most responsible way."

Gressle is survived by his wife, the former Marguerite Kirkpatrick, and his three children, Richard Gressle of Nyack, N.Y.; Katherine Haritos of Hyde Park, Mass.; Mark Gressle of Wilton, Conn.; and six grandchildren.

A Cleveland native, Gressle attended Oberlin College and Bexley Hall Divinity School, Kenyon, Ohio. He served as dean of the Cathedral Church of St. John, Wilmington, Del., from 1956 to 1968. He was rector of St. James Church in Lancaster; St. John's Church in Sharon, Delaware County; and St. James Church in Wooster, Ohio.

After retiring in East Quogue, Long Island, he was elected to the school board and served as president for one term.

Contributions may be made in his name to: The Gressle Scholarship Fund, Diocese of Bethlehem, or The Garden of Remembrance, St. Mary the Virgin Church, Hampton Bays, NY.

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At Berks AIDS Network and Rainbow Home 
People with HIV/AIDS Are My Church
By Eleanor Hart
Diocesan Life, January 2000

I pastor persons with HIV/AIDS at Berks AIDS Network, a community agency in Berks County, and I coordinate pastoral care at Rainbow Home in Wernersville, a personal care home for people living with AIDS.

Every Monday morning calls me to unknown worlds. This is what happened recently over the course of one week. A young man dealing with addiction and HIV tells me I am one of the few people he trusts. He has learned to run and hide from life. We are joined by his partner who has been my client for three years. He checks in with me daily. Weekly sessions and constant contact have helped him realize that his HIV is not a death sentence but a call to life. By speaking to groups, he has touched many at risk. His photo was in the local daily, telling the entire county that he was living with AIDS.

A woman then came in to let me know she had spoken to her husband. She sought help on how to handle her relationship. Two years ago I led her and her husband in a renewal of their wedding vows at Rainbow Home. She planned her funeral, paid for it and settled down to die. God had other plans. She is now studying to be a counselor.

A young man stopped by with his 10 month old child to play with "Grandma." I married him and his wife three years ago at a recovery club in Reading. A young man whose wife recently died then came for support. He is seeking drug and alcohol counseling and wants to meet for grief counseling.

A woman who has been clean (free of drugs) came in to tell me she felt like using. She knew she couldn't relapse and just needed a safe place to go.

Toward the end of the day, I visited a young man and his partner at Reading Hospital. He had been there for a week - still no clear diagnosis. After prayer and the laying on of hands, I went home. I called the wife of an employee who died suddenly last year.

On Tuesdays I lead a support group for men and women at Berks County Prison. We talk about struggles with addiction, HIV and living. I often find myself advocating for them with the prison medical department. Back at BAN for a client services meeting, I interact with the case managers who work with the people I see for spiritual care and counseling.

Wednesday. A staff meeting. Then a man from the halfway house next door. It's his third time there. If he doesn't stay clean, he will be sent back to prison to complete his sentence. He has increased sessions with me to twice a week. He feels safe here. We talk about how he is feeling and what will keep him clean. His HIV is under control but he struggles with life daily. Next, I see a 19 year old boy from the nearby Drug and Alcohol facility. A hemophiliac, he has been HIV positive since the age of four. His disease is under control, but his life is not.

I drove to Rainbow Home to join the residents for supper and to officiate at the annual dedication of the AIDS quilt panel made each year to remember those who have died at the home. Only eleven this year. Thursday I went to a lawyer's office to receive the gift of a car. The car belonged to a client who died at Rainbow Home. It was left to BAN and Rainbow Home to be sold.

On Fridays I meet with a doctor to coordinate care for our clients and to receive the St. Joseph's Hospital list. Back at the office, I met with a woman who was seeking information about the HIV/AIDS. Another meeting, more grief counseling. Then, a funeral for the husband of a pastoral care volunteer at Rainbow Home. I ended the day back at the hospital.

My church consists of men, women and children, heterosexual and homosexual. They are black, white and Hispanic. They own their own businesses, work in heath care and large companies. They are prostitutes, prisoners, addicts and they are all affected by the disease of HIV/AIDS. They are God's children and I have been called to minister to them.

I'll soon see the AIDS quilt. It gives me a time to reflect on my ministry and to pray for the people in my life who live and have died with HIV or AIDS. It allows me to say "Here I am, Lord; let me touch them; let them touch me."

[The Rev. Eleanor Hart was ordained five years ago to serve in HIV/AIDS ministry.] 

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Prison And Other Ministries Of Bob And Twila Evans
 By Dolores Caskey 
Diocesan Life, January 2000

During the first half of this decade, the Episcopal Church USA honored Bethlehem with the designation of Jubilee Diocese because so many of our parishes are involved in Jubilee ministries to and with the poor and the marginalized.

Some of these parishes and ministries may also qualify as Jubilee centers, meeting the criteria established by the National Church, although such official designations have not yet been requested.

Within the parishes there are also individuals who have dedicated their lives to Jubilee, including couples who join in team ministry. Twila and Bob Evans at Trinity, Bethlehem, are such a team. They came to Trinity in September 1969 after seeing an ad in the local paper.

In search of a church where they could be both useful and comfortable, the search began and ended at Trinity. Three months later they answered the call to mission.

At the annual parish meeting the rector's wife introduced the FISH program (Families in Service to Humanity) and asked for volunteers. FISH involved services parishioners were unable to provide for themselves such as transportation to medical visits, grocery shopping for shut-ins and emergency errands. It also included home visits for the sick and lonely and sometimes emergency childcare.

Twila accepted responsibility for services to the elderly, particularly those in need of ongoing and familiar care and she and Bob spent many hours on this project. Eventually the Meals on Wheels and other programs for the aging came into being. FISH had served its purpose.

Shortly afterward a few Episcopalians were asked to participate on the Roman Catholic Cursillo. The Evans' were in the first class and thereafter Bob became one of the driving forces in the movement throughout the diocese, organizing weekends, serving on teams, spreading Cursillo far and wide. This was a long term and demanding commitment. At the same time Bob served also on the vestry and was active in parish affairs.

Twila had turned her attention to the lack of necessary volunteers in the schools, particularly in the areas of special education and reading disabilities and was spending many hours in the classroom.

This was during the Sue Cox period at Trinity and Twila was a member of the dynamic Mission Committee that was involved in many aspects of community outreach and human services. The refugee program was just one priority of the National Church in which Trinity was involved. Members of the vestry agreed to establish a fund to cover expenses of resettlement costs for refugee families through monthly personal contributions. Several other parishioners participated. Most notable of the refugees was the Dang family, whose youngest member was born the night Saigon fell. The family of ten had not slept in the same place two nights in a row until they landed in Bethlehem into the arms of Trinity. This project, with its many challenges, was a natural for Bob and Twila.

These were critical years for Bethlehem Steel and, as an employee, Bob began to think about the future. Twila, a registered nurse, went to work part time as a home care provider in the Slate Belt, but found that the physical demands of nursing had become too difficult. She had had polio at 18. She decided to pursue graduate studies in special education and reading in order to work for the school district. In fact, the superintendent had promised her a position.

But, at this point, a totally unexpected call to ministry came. It was one that marked a real change in her life. She went to jail. In the course of her volunteer work in the school and the pursuit of an advanced degree, Twila had become friends with Sheila LaFrankie who was working part time at Northampton County Prison as coordinator of educational services. For personal reasons she was unable to continue and, fearful that a break in service might mean the end of the program, she prevailed on Twila to take the job "in the meantime." Before long, both Twila and Bob were deeply involved in this ministry and, eventually, so was Trinity. The immediate need was for basic educational materials and it just happened that there was money left in the refugee "kitty" after activity had been suspended. This provided the essential books and supplies necessary to move forward.

The reading program flourished, as did the relationship between teacher and students. Recruitment of volunteer tutors and mentors resulted in a program that attracted attention and commanded respect from prison and other county officials.

A new Washington administration, particularly First Lady Barbara Bush, made Family Literacy a national goal. Working with the community college, Twila expanded the prison program to include families. One of her greatest joys was in bringing together father and child, reading to each other for the first time ever. Obviously, this required transportation to and from prison and Bob and friends provided that.

Bob was also available to talk to parents of young first offenders, trying to bring families together, and Twila was always available to encourage and facilitate re-entry into the community after prison. At one point they took a young man into their home for several months. Estranged from his parents because of his imprisonment, he simply had nowhere to go when he was discharged. A reunion was finally arranged and his father, an ordained minister, took him home.

It's impossible to measure how many lives have been and continue to be touched and changed by this wonderful ministry. All this on a temporary, 10 hour a week basis, since 1984!

"This is not everybody's ministry," Twila admits, "we are not all called to the same things, but to give the gift we have." There is no question that this was her calling, her special gift. Bob's current project is an expansion of prison ministry and involves in depth, hands on and personal life skills development and training.

Some people devote their lives to a particular project or cause. The Evans' have always been willing to go where and when they are called.

Isn't it risky to keep trying new things? What if we fail? "Christ does not ask us to succeed," says Twila. He doesn't keep a scorecard. He just expects us to try." And, indeed, they do. Both Evans' continue to live lives of love and service to the Lord.

[Trinity Church, Bethlehem, parishioner Dolores Caskey serves the diocesan community on social ministry and communication ministry matters.]

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Parenthood Is A Vocation
Parenting Seminar at the Cathedral 
By Anne Kitch 
Diocesan Life, January 2000

[To register for *Parenting in the New Millennium,* Saturday, February 5, call the Cathedral at 610-865-0727. Lunch and child care will be provided. The suggested donation is $10 per person or $15 per couple and should accompany the registration. Please register by January 28. Assistance is available for those in need. It is not necessary to register for the Sunday forums. For further information, please speak to Canon Anne Kitch <anne.kitch@ecunet.org> or Canon Jane Bender <email address> at the Cathedral.]

Parenthood is a vocation. When consciously lived into, it can be understood as a calling from God. It carries with it not only great responsibility, but also the potential for deep spiritual growth.

Many people think of parenting in terms of how we raise our children. But it is so much more. When the disciples asked Jesus who is the greatest in the kingdom of Heaven, he placed a child in front of them and said, "Unless you change and become like children you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven." (Matthew 18:3).

Never mind who is the greatest, let's just talk about getting in. Jesus is clear that change is necessary. We are to become like children. How better to do this than to be in relationship with children, to be vulnerable to them, to allow a child to affect our souls in such a way that we are transformed. Parenthood offers a unique opportunity to do this.

Parenting is as much about being transformed as it is about shaping the life of a child. It is about how our children can challenge us to confront our own limitations, how they encourage us to grow into our full potential as children of God. When a child is baptized, the parents and Godparents promise to help that child "grow into the full stature of Christ." (BCP. p. 302) If we take Jesus seriously, this is a two way street. The children in our care also help us continue in our growth in Christ.

Thus, parenting is an important and difficult job which affects children and adults alike. Yet people often assume it is one that requires no skills or training. We would not approach any other important and difficult job in our society without training and support. With the many challenges and fears that face parents and children these days, we need to be intentional about our parenting skills. With this in mind, the Cathedral Church of Nativity has invited Julie A. Ross to present Parenting in the New Millennium, a practical parenting seminar to be held February 5, 2000 from 9 am to 3 pm at the Cathedral.

Ms. Ross is the author of Practical Parenting for the 21st Century: The Manual You Wish Had Come with Your Child as well as Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex and Now What Do I Do? which offers techniques for parenting elementary school age children.

A well-known parent educator and counselor with a practice in New York, Ms. Ross has appeared on national television, presented workshops across the country, and published articles in national magazines. Her workshop will help parents of any age child and will include such topics as teaching responsibility, diminishing tantrums, establishing effective discipline, dealing with sibling rivalry, and building self esteem. Her methods are practical, hands-on and easy to apply.

As a follow up to Ms. Ross' practical parenting, the Cathedral Church of Nativity will offer a four week seminar on "Raising Children in the Faith." Taught by Cathedral staff, this Sunday forum will be held from 9 to 10 am beginning February 13 and will include the following topics: Children's Spirituality, Parenting in the Pew, Creating Meaningful Family Traditions and Praying with Children.

[The Rev. Canon Anne E. Kitch is the Canon for Christian Formation at the Cathedral Church of Nativity. Just before we went to press, Anne Kitch and James Peck welcomed their new nearly 9 pound daughter, Lucy Grace.]

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Planned Gifts Can Create Ministry
By Char Horst 
Diocesan Life, January 2000

A planned gift is any kind of gift that is planned for the future.

Sometimes the gift creates special tax advantages for the donor, and/or increases the donor's retirement income.

Sometimes the gift consists of cash or shares of stock, or even real estate, an IRA or retirement plan, or a policy of life insurance.

Sometimes (but not always) a person with some sort of special expertise - a lawyer, a CPA, a financial planner, etc. - becomes involved in the planning and making of the gift.

The simplest and most common type of "planned gift" is a charitable bequest in a will. All that is required to leave a bequest is a single short sentence such as: "I give ____ percent of my estate to St. ____ Episcopal Church of _____, PA, for its general purposes." - or, "I give ____ dollars to St. ____ Episcopal Church of ____, PA, for its general purposes."

Contrary to what many people think, gift planning has absolutely nothing to do with the size or value of the gift. Planned giving certainly doesn't have to be complex or "only for the rich." As a matter of fact, a charitable bequest is the one gift that everyone - regardless of financial circumstances -- can make!

So, while it doesn't require a lot of money to make a planned gift to the church, it does take a lot of heart. In our own Diocese at least one such planned gift is alive and well and of tremendous benefit to every elderly Episcopalian in all of Schuylkill County.

Marian Price was a lifelong member of Trinity Church, Pottsville. She was devoted to music, cats and her beloved parish. In addition to gifts made to Trinity during her lifetime for building repairs, Mrs. Price also took care before her death to include a provision in her will which gave her residence and the residue of her estate to be used to care for elderly Episcopalians.

This bequest later became the Marian C. Price Trust Fund, the goal of which is to help elderly members of the Episcopal Church to remain in their own homes (or other living arrangements) while sustaining their ties to the local community and to their parish. Marian Price's planned gift seeks to maximize the independence of seniors by promoting their safety, comfort and dignity.

Today the "caring" envisioned by Mrs. Price is available not only in the form of grants for equipment or services to those in financial need, but also in the very alive and breathing ministry of Kathy Burda, R.N., who serves as Parish Nurse for Trinity and as Administrator of the Trust Fund.

Kathy, whose background is in long-term care, is quick to credit the seniors with giving her "more than I could give" in terms of the depth of the relationships she and they are able to develop.

She points to the satisfaction derived from having time enough to really learn and know about her clients, including the opportunity to sit and listen to stores she describes as "truly remarkable." She also credits the Rev. Canon Charles J. Morris with a rare openness and flexibility, as well as a committed willingness to work side by side with her in this valuable ministry to the elderly. Though the Parish Nurse works part-time now, Father Charles is hard at work to develop and expand the job into a full-time staff position at Trinity.

And the result of Marian Price's plan for a gift?

An experienced nurse unites her professional skills and devotion to career with her spiritual faith in hands-on service to seniors.

Eighty-five elderly Episcopalians receive monthly or quarterly visits or calls by the Parish Nurse, who acts as a resource person, coordinator and advocate in securing services and assistance to enable seniors to maintain not only their health but also their independence.

In addition to meeting the medical needs of the elderly, the Trust sponsors seminars and health fairs of general interest to seniors.

Parish staff, volunteers and Sunday School youth develop caring relationships and regular contacts with the elderly, including visits and calls, monthly blood pressure monitoring, and birthday and holiday cards. Jesus" vision in Matthew 25 of the kingdom is fulfilled, for the needy are helped and the sick are visited as part of the visible connection made among mind, body and spirit in our own Diocese.

Kathy and Trinity's ministries to the elderly in Schuylkill County are living proof of the tangible blessings that a planned gift can make in people's lives, both now and in years to come.

Although she is no longer physically with us, Marian Price's generosity continues to comfort and support elderly parishioners in Schuylkill County and to shape the future ministry of Trinity Church. She has given much more than a legacy of mere money. Instead, her simple gift demonstrates the triumph of a legacy of love over death.

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